third party?

Love is the feeling that joins two souls and brings two hearts together. I remember writing this line in my last post. Have you ever faced situations where there are times in a relationship, you have another guy/girl interested in you, or you find some other guy/girl are more attractive? What do you do? Continue to contact the new guy/girl secretly since he/she is so interesting? Have you thought about what your partner would feel knowing you’re flirting around like that?

They said when the new guy appears in your life and you don’t know who to choose, choose the new guy! Why? If your partner never disappoints you, you won’t be in dilemma like that. It somehow made some sense to me! Well, there is no right or wrong in a relationship. It all depends on how you both communicate and have faith in each other. Think deeply about what has made both of you together and think again if all these time being together is worth it. You’ll know who to choose =)

What does a GIRL want from her LOVED ONES in a relationship?

What does a girl want from her loved ones in a relationship? I’ve read back the post I scribbled months ago about 10 DON’Ts when you’re breaking up. So it reminds me of this, scribbling something about relationship about what exactly a girl wants from a relationship. Guys, girls are not complicated creature like you imagined. We’re just as complicated as you =) So, what does a girl want from her loved ones in a relationship?

1.       Love

2.       Care

3.       Faith

4.       Communication

5.       Understanding

6.       Toleration

7.       Maturity

8.       Responsibility

9.       Loyalty

10.   Time

Is RELIGION a barrier in relationship?

In a month time, I’ve heard about 3 couples breaking up and the reason is “Our religion’s different.” They promised not to hurt each other, not to force each other to convert into others’ religion, and will respect each other. I guess, like I said in my previous post, when he/she asked for break up, promise is nothing now.

We shall all respect others’ religion, not forcing them to convert their religion. That’s what I think we should do. I don’t understand why some people would promise now saying they would respect but convinced their loved ones to convert their religion in the end. I see many married couples with different religion. They can live together happily but why can’t some others do so too? Don’t you think it is useless for a person who said “Nothing can be done now, let’s break up.” So, now I see breaking up is really as easy as ABC. *sighs* what do you readers think about this? Is religion really a barrier in relationship?

What is L.O.V.E

What is love? I guess no one can give you the definition for the word love. Once, I was chatting with a friend and he was asking "why don't we have a handbook teaching us how to handle our relationship? How nice it is if we have a theory book that way, when we have problems in relation, we can find solution in the book." I don't know if this is a brilliant idea or should I laugh at this. Then I asked these mentioned by my friend to another friend of mine and he said "CRAZY! If there is a handbook for love, then it is not love! You have to feel love yourself."

Still, the question here is what is love? Do we feel very happy when we're in love? or do we suffer at times for love? Is love a sacrifice? Is love the best thing in the world? I guess it all depends to your other half =) Will you be proud of your bf/gf? Will you want everybody to know by telling "HEY! This is my bf/gf!" IF there is a partner of yours whom didn't want his/her friends to know about you, what is the reason of these? Is it because you're not good enough or you're embarrassing him? Why are there people who are so proud of their partners but some others are hiding?

Sighs... how do we know if that guy/girl is the right person for us? Love is so complicated.

I musn't give up easily!

There are still people supporting me even though many commented about my relation with Kelvin. I asked why is it so shocking to know I'm with Kelvin now. Their replies were funny. I mean, they didn't really replied. They just said "because... it's Kelvin?!! and Li Ting! I mean, Li Ting and ... err... Kelvin? Just shocking. I'm so sorry for being so judgmental." What do they mean by this?

I received a comment from G-dah. I published it. You people can just click the button below to read it. It is so nice for her to wish the best for me even though she sounded surprised knowing me having an Indonesian boyfriend. I really need more supports from my friends to build up and increase my self-confidence. These days I have been so down. I have no confident for myself. I hate myself for doubting Kelvin.

I shouldn't think negatively. Well, I'm not as optimistic as others think of me. I had enough this one week. Today is the 31st day we are together. Perhaps I'm thinking too much. That is what i must not do! All I have to do now is, exactly like what G-dah just commented, TRUST! I must have faith in our relation. I must trust my partner. I must believe that we can make it. I must not give up so easily. I must not cry anymore for what had happened in the past because crying helps NOTHING. We can't change what has already happened. I must learn to be tough.

I just messaged Kelvin and I promised not to change. I promised him I won't give up on our relation so easily and I want him to do the same. Give us both some time. Perhaps it is like what Tracie told me. We just got together. Maybe this is the reason why I feel insecure being with a busy guy who spends little time with me. I'm just not used to this new life. TIme will change things and I will soon adapt myself perfectly into this new life with Kelvin.

I'm USELESS!

Listening to Jay Chou’s songs made me flash back on the day where K brought me to his house when I said I wanted to see Colby. I browsed on facebook just now and saw him changing his status from ‘it’s complicated’ into ‘single’. I felt weird knowing him staying at home, not going out for dating while he chatted with me in MSN about two weeks ago. I didn’t dare to ask him about his relation with his current girlfriend.

That was the time he started changing his status from ‘in relationship’ into ‘it’s complicated’. I wondered if they argued. Whatever happened, I’m very sure this time it is not because of me. Glad to know that I don’t feel guilty this time like when he broke up with KY. Now that I saw him changing the status into ‘single’, I felt like messaging him asking about what happened but I’m sure he won’t tell.

I know he won’t tell. Is this because I really know him? Or is it just because of what I think? Maybe I shouldn't be that confident. I can’t stop thinking of him after I saw the changes in facebook. Li Ting! Why are you thinking of him so much right now?! He doesn’t like you anymore. Wake up! Perhaps he didn’t even loved you before. What now?! Do you still love him? Waiting for him? Nonsense! Do you think he is worth you waiting for? You hate smoker and He IS a SMOKER! He changed once, so?! Sigh. LI TING! You’re USELESS! Can’t you not be thinking of him so much right now? You're having Oral Biology paper tomorrow morning and you only studied 2 chapters out of 7 chapters! Another paper on Philosophy in the noon and you haven't even open up the book and CONGRATULATIONS both papers are in essay =.=!

Come one! STOP dreaming! Studies are far more important!

Where is my Prince?

Am I the one who is dreaming all these while? Everybody moves but not me. Lately, I found out, I was being left alone in the lala-land~ Its lonely and I don't like the feeling being alone there!

I always thought I might still have chance with this guy, but it is not true. Do we call this loyal or should I say I'm dreaming all these while? Dreaming of things which won't happen again! I had liked a few guys in life. Come to think of it, none of them having good endings wih me. Is it because I'm too picky or are they not the right guy for me yet because my Mr RIGHT will soon appear in my life? But how soon will it be?!

Say me desperate I don't care. That is all because I feel so lonely here I got nobody to talk to. Friends I have here is so different from those I have in Kuantan whom I can talk to them about everything. People here made me feel that they're selfish and they're total gossippers. I don't think I can trust them. Well, this sounded so like Li Ting who doesn't trust people easily.

This is one of the problems in me. I can't be with a guy because I don't trust them easily. Once the guy leaves me, I'll regret why I don't trust him. Why must I be that stubborn?! I don't understand myself at all. Is it really that hard to find a guy who loves us and of course, we love him alot at the same time? Why must it be that hard? Many said I'm very picky and so they advised me not to be that picky in choosing boyfriends.

Sometimes when I'm really bored, I tend to think myself, how does my boyfriend-to-be look? How tall is he? What course is he taking or is he already working? Does he has a pair of specs with him? Is he tanned or fair? Well, I hoped he is not that fair, I prefer sunshine boys *giggles* Where is he right now?

I'm glad to know most of my friends already found their other halves lately. These includes the shocking news from K and R. K said he didn't dare to tell me he already got a girlfriend right now because he is afraid that once I knew it, I won't go out with him anymore, won't let him kisses and hugs me again. I admit I was wrong last time. I shouldn't hugged and kissed him when we're not couple. Now that I know he already got a girlfriend, I won't let him hug or kiss me anymore. I don't want the same thing to happen again.

According to my best friends, all the guys who were courting me are all bad guys EXCEPT for Karlson because the others flirt alot and are not honest to me. How true is it? I don't know. In fact, nobody knows! When I think they are honest to me, they are actually NOT. When I think they are not honest, they actually ARE! Gosh~ I'm tired of all these. Tired of thinking hard, tired of guessing, tired of judging, tired of listening to explanations, tired of rumours, tired of gossips, tired of answering questions... I'm really tired of relationships. I already didn't know how to differentiate on which is good which is bad, which is right which is wrong anymore.